Anyone who has ever hooped has experienced the hoop getting wonky. The otherwise smooth revolutions of the hoop around the body or hand suddenly get bumpy or dip to one side as the rhythm of the hoop and one’s own rhythm shift in and out of balance. If you don’t correct the wonk in time, the odds are good that the hoop will smack you in a tender spot before it crashes to the floor.

Sometimes life gets a little wonky, too. Things that were once easy or obvious lose energy for us or fall out of their normal rhythm and we are left feeling off balance. Clearly something needs to change. In the hoop, strategies for curing the wonk include turning with the hoop, adjusting one’s own rhythm to match that of the hoop or pushing a little harder so the hoop goes faster and comes back into rhythm.

I started teaching a Tuesday morning class mid-January. I was excited to have the opportunity to teach twice a week instead of only on Saturdays. Though there was a lot of enthusiasm from prospective students in the beginning, the classes didn’t really take off. So, I pushed a little harder, made some adjustments and finally had to admit that I needed to let go of what wasn’t working. I make it sound like it was no big deal but it wasn’t easy to come to the decision. I felt I had failed, that I should be able to make it work, that if only, if only, if only… I balk at letting go of anything or anyone I love. I have learned, though, that things change over time. What worked perfectly at one point doesn’t work at all at another. Sometimes it is just a matter of making an adjustment, other times it is time to scrap it and move on.

A lot of my students have, at some point, experienced the feeling of being defeated when their hoops don’t immediately do what they want them to do. Working with wonkiness is the only way to learn what works and what doesn’t, whether we are hooping or doing most anything else, for that matter. If it is important enough to you, it’s well worth working through those awkward stages. The rewards for doing so are countless.

If we view wonkiness not as an indication that we have failed but as a sign that it’s time to make some adjustments we can come into a more harmonious relationship not only with the hoop, but with Life in these fast-moving, rapidly changing times. Hoop on!

3 Comments

  1. I love that word “wonkiness” Jodi. I’ve been experiencing it almost non-stop for the past month. Depending on what area of my life it is, it ranges from sensing something is not quite working to all out having to let something go that meant the world to me.

    One thing I like to remind myself is to LOVE the wonkiness even when I don’t want to because it hurts so dang much to let go sometimes. Learning to trust that something new awaits that will take my life, my business, my relationships (or whatever else I’m up to) to a higher level is challenging and yet, I believe as you do, that working through the challenges can be rewarding and fulfilling.

  2. Rachelle Wilson

    You hit it spot on. People always feel like I am not doing what is expected of me, what is expected of my potential, coming from a family of famous doctors and lawyers. I ended up being a musician, but hey, at least I love what I do! If I tried to force my self into becoming something that I am not and did not work out with the wonkiness happening back then, I wouldn’t feel as contented and as happy as I am today. Thanks for the inspiring article. You were able to incorporate a hoola into a life’s lesson! =)

    • Jodi

      Thank you, Rachelle! I appreciate your sharing your experience with working through wonkiness. In my experience, we each have to find our own way to balance in our lives. Those I’ve seen follow the traditional,’ tried and true’ trail up the mountain eventually find themselves needing to reconsider what they are doing and why. In the end, we really can’t live someone else’s dream for us and not pay the price. Time is the great revealer of all truths. Good for you for following your heart to the life that spoke to you!

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